A Prison Sentence is Like Dying


Inside The Forbidden Outside by Sonni Quick. Copyright 2016

I’ve had many hours – years really – to try to understand how an inmate can lose an entire family who walks away from him as completely as if he had died. In the beginning, having no knowledge, I didn’t realize how many inmates lose their family when they are inside. I don’t know how different it is between men and women inmates.

I know that one man went for ten years before his mother would speak to him. He also never saw any of his family until this past year. It was hard but he accepted it. Being on death row they may have have seen it as a death so what was the point of seeing him if they could never bees a family? I am only guessing.

But my most in depth knowledge now is how prison has affected Jamie and caused his family to give up on him. He gave up long ago trying to understand if he mattered to them. What was the point? Did anyone ever follow through with anything they said? Did anyone care that their total absence was slowly killing him? There could be no trust ever again. Did it matter to them or did they think it was all his fault? Are they going to want a relationship with this stranger they no nothing for when he gets out?

I know it hurts him to talk about it. I hear the pain in his words. Whoever he was all those years ago – the boy – he isn’t that boy any longer. And they are no longer the people they were, either. When he gets out what will his mother do? What will she expect – anything? Will he have risen from the dead? The only person who matters to him – is his ten year old son.

Many inmates have no one, never did have anyone. Many came from foster care and never connected with anyone like family. How do they ever have a family? How do you create something you never had? The recidivism rate is very high for these people. They want a better life but don’t know how. I am teaching Jamie to have the confidence only he can. His life has value. No one had hope for them in the past so they have no hope for themselves now.

All these years I have spent being there for him – the only one who cared for him these past ten years, watching him grow from a boy to a man, seeing the person his family left for dead – a man they will later say they made a mistake and now they want a piece of him.

The ITFO Newsletter

I am dead serious about the book I’m writing. I sincerely thank those who have supported me. I especially thank Leah who has helped Jamie so much because my money is tight. She helps with food so I can buy books for him and advertising. It will also take money to edit and do book cover art.

I’m studying to do the best I can on a limited budget. This book on his life he will use to help others. As I write, the mailing list I develop is crucial as I tell people what is happening by sending out the ITFO Newsletter – the first letters of the title of the book, “Inside The Forbidden Outside” Each issue has information that touches his life. This next issue going out the end of the week has an article about epilepsy, which he has-written by a WordPress blogger. Also an article from another blogger about Black Lives Matter, New music I’ve recorded plus much more, to make it interesting and something you will want to share.

It’s important to sign up for the newsletter if you can – if you think you’d open it and share it, because stats matter. It is also how people will know when and where they can purchase the book. Sharing the newsletter on facebook and other social media is important because facebook just made it even harder for people to see posts from business pages.  


The new facebook algorithm that changed again and will not let you see my posts if you have no activity on it. It is no longer good enough to like a page. If there is no activity by the user they will not put my posts on your time line because they only put posts from pages you go to. This doesn’t affect what you see from friends and family. Less than 2% will see my post in their timeline – unless I pay them every day -or you at least sometimes go to the page and leave a mark you were there by liking or commenting or.or sharing. It didn’t used to be like that. But now, if you have a second page you have to pay or have attendance by people who like you. I understand. They need more billions from the  little guy. You can believe I’m going back to pages I’ve liked but haven’t been to hardly at all to put activity on their pages. We have to help each other.

So I’m asking you to help – not every day – but to help me when you can. Doing some kind of activity or sharing. It keeps my posts near the top of the timeline instead of the bottom and sharing my post here on your facebook page will be some of the best help you can give me to develop my mailing list and then sell a book that will help Jamie’s life. This won’t be the last book.



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Unexpected Vacations are The Best Kind


 I just couldn’t resist! My daughter sent me new pictures of my grandkids and this was taken just the other day of Jamie’s son Jamie who will be 10 mid July.It will be 3 years this October since – our I –  have seen my grandchildren. He has grown so much. They all have. My oldest grandson is going into the Marines. He’s excited but I’m scared crazy. He doesn’t understand war. He bought the “defend America’s democracy” propaganda hook line and sinker not understanding that corporate profit and resource control is why we are in perpetual war.

I love the great picture apps there are to make the one I have here. I’ve been making great albums of mostly all old time photos. Ill print this one out and send it to Jamie to put on his wall.

I’ll be leaving on Wed. I’m taking my first long distance Greybound bus trip instead of a plane to go to Tx. I’ve had friends who looked at me in horror at the thought, but I’m looking forward to it. Kick back, plug in my Nook, blog, watch movies and work on my book. Sounds relaxing to me. Security is beefed up to a two hour wait at airports, driving to DC in a 5 hour round trip rush hour traffic nightmare and other stressful things.

In addition to seeing grandkids in Tx and going to see Jamie at the prison, and then driving across hell and seeing more grandkids in NM, collecting fresh eggs in the morning and picking fresh vegetables for dinner from their wonderful garden and feeding the rabbits, then I will be RVing with friends to Carlsbad Caverns, planning for gold in Prescott, Az and going to the Grand Canyon, taking some well earned time to go have fun. I haven’t had a “vacation” in awhile. Ill be gone at least 5 weeks. Some of that time I’ll not be near wifi hook up or having too much fun to type. But Ill take lots of pictures to share pictures.



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